May 15, 2015 · 3 minutes

Last night's PandoMonthly with Sheila Lirio Marcelo featured a few incredible moments during which the Care.com founder and CEO revealed some very personal details of her life and career experiences. Marcelo also gave some insight into how Care plans to position itself as more than just a service to find child care.

But, being that the event was being held in the Lower East Side of New York and that Care.com is based outside of Boston, the topic of course veered to a discussion of life in the two major East Coast tech ecosystems.

In one very candid moment Marcelo told the story of one of the toughest career decisions she had to make prior to founding Care.com.

Working to help executive job site The Ladders during its early growth, Marcelo had planned to move her family to New York to be closer to the company's headquarters. She and her husband had gone as far as to put their family home outside of Boston on the market and had made a bid on a house in Tribeca. During a visit to scout out local schools, the Care.com chief executive became overwhelmed with emotion to the point where she sat on a curb outside of one of the schools and burst into tears. "I said that I can't do this to my family," Marcelo said. "I loved my job, but my family loved Boston. It was a really difficult decision."

After deciding to stay in Boston, Marcelo was offered the position of entrepreneur-in-residence at Cambridge-based VC Matrix Partners. It was during her time at Matrix that she came up with the business plan for, and eventually started, Care.com.

During the interview, Sarah Lacy asked Marcelo if she ever thought about leaving Boston — or was pressured by investors to move — while scaling Care.com.

"Investors never encouraged us to move. I have a great founding team, incredible actually," Marcelo said. "Now, you can find talent anywhere, even outside of Boston." Marcelo pointed out how key being able to have Care.com employees work remotely has been for the company. Its founding CTO even worked from Greece for a number of years.

As for Boston's lack of really big consumer Internet companies. Marcelo acknowledged that it was something that she and other Boston tech founders have discussed at length. (Sometimes during top-secret Boston tech founder dinners — at which I would love to be a fly on the wall!)

According to Marcelo, the next generation of the Boston tech community needs a big win to spawn more entrepreneurs. "It would be a huge honor for us to know that numerous companies were built by great entrepreneurs that few out of Care.com," she said.

"I often tell people that we have so many budding CEOs at Care, and I take great pride in that," Marcelo added.

During the Q&A of last night's talk, I asked Marcelo if there was an undercurrent of humbleness and privateness that runs through the entrepreneur class in Boston.

"I do think that there is sense a conservatism in Boston, and I see this when I talk to startups and entrepreneurs who are raising money," she said. Contrasting Boston VCs to those in Silicon Valley, Marcelo said that in the Bay area, there is an openness around testing and iterating, and added, "I think that Boston wants to see proof points faster and there is more of a sense of conservatism."

Marcelo pointed out, however, that that's not a problem singular to Boston. That place like New York and Austin have similar problems when compared to Silicon Valley.

"I do think that the Bay area ecosystem is fundamentally unique," Marcello said. "It moves rapid and fast because you have this fluidity of entrepreneurs that support each other and get know each other, and its permeated the financial system of funding."

"But I'm not actually ever jealous of the Bay Area because I think what they are doing is a service to the world," she added.

When Lacy pointed out that deflecting to San Francisco and New York may be the most un-Boston thing ever, Marcelo said, "There are great startups in Boston, are there a lot of them? I don't believe so."

"I don't think we've had some massive success like the Googles, like the PayPals that have spawned other companies," she said.

"You need more of it and that would be incredibly aspirational for us," Marcelo added.